Another year older, wiser, happier and more grateful. Today is my 24th year on this wonderful earth and I’ve learned a few lessons.
1. It’s okay to chose yourself and say “no.” I used to have a problem saying “no” to people and that resulted in people taking advantage of me. I learned from my mistakes and now I don’t let people walk all over me. If people are taking advantage of you, make them know that you don’t appreciate it and that it needs to stop.
2. Your worth is not measured by likes, followers and comments. In a world where social media is taking over people’s sanity, know that getting hundreds or thousands of likes, getting hundreds or thousands of followers, “omg goals” comments do not mean a thing. Don’t live a fake life where you need the approval from strangers.
3. It’s okay to focus on your relationship and friendships. You can still be independent and want to be with someone that makes you happy and be friends with people.
4. If you find someone who treats you really good, try to make it work no matter how hard it is.
5. Thank God more for all the blessings and not just when you’re praying before bed.
6. Don’t start a new episode or a new series on Netflix when it’s past 11 PM. You’re gonna regret it. Trust me, been there, done that.
7. Failure is good. You learn from experiences and failure helps you grow as a person and makes you more humble and appreciate things.
8. Eat, eat, eat! Don’t skip a meal. Seriously!!!!
9. Drink water! Who needs an overpriced highlighter from Sephora when the best natural glow you can get is by taking care of your body, eating right, drinking your daily water intake.
10. Not everyone will like you and that is perfectly okay. You can’t make or force everyone to like you. As long as you like yourself, you don’t need anyone else’s approval. I also learned that people will talk about you, but as long as you know the truth, that’s all that matters. Everything else is just outside noise.
11. Keep your private life private. It’s called a private life for a reason. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone with photos, likes or comments. You don’t need outside validation. Healthy and strong relationships don’t need to prove anything to anyone.
12. Use sunscreen seriously! Do you want to look like you’re 40+ when you’re in your twenties?
13. Eat the cookie, have a slice of cake. Treat yourself. Life is too short to deprive yourself. I’m not saying to eat an entire cake, but know your limits.
14. Stay true yourself. In a world that thrives on insecurities, staying true to yourself is an accomplishment. You don’t have to change yourself, how you look or your hobbies to fit in or make someone/people to like you.
15. Get a fitness tracker. I was one of those people when for it first came out and thought they were “silly.” Fast forward to a couple years and my first week working for the Blue Jays, I purchased one. It is one of my favourite purchases from last year. It measures your heart rate, your steps, when you have a text message etc. You don’t need anything fancy, just purchase one that will help you meet your goals and get you the necessary daily physical activity.
16. Don’t believe everything you hear. If I got a dollar everytime I read something false on a screenshot of something someone sent me or a DM or whatever of myself this since last year, I could probably by the Toronto Blue Jays club. Remember, “rumours are spread by haters, spread by fools and accepted by idiots.”
17. Don’t buy it if you don’t really need it. I’ve never had to worry about being on a budget and never had to worry about anything money wise, and this probably did not help me in my adult years. If I like something, 99% of the time, I would just buy it. That is a bad move! Buy it if you really need it, but don’t buy it just because! Be smart with your expenses! Now that I’m older, more mature, more educated and starting a business and a family in the next couple of years, I’m smarter and more educated with my expenses.
18. Happiness is not for sale. We can’t buy happiness nor can we find happiness in materialistic objects. So, just because you have a closet full of designer goods with designer labels, it does not automatically mean you are happy. Materialistic objects are only a temporary void.
19. Finding your passion is important. Love what you do, follow your dreams, the sky is the limit! There’s nothing wrong with working a 9-5 job, but also have other things going on in your life! Start a business, pick up a new hobby or two.
20. Being aware in life is important. Be aware and read not just the latest celebrity gossip, but also the latest news around the world. It’s your duty to know what is happening in the world.
21. Perfect does not exist. The perfect life does not exist. The perfect person does not exist. The perfect diet does not exist. The perfect anything…. it does not exist. Stop trying to live this perfect life and live in the moment.
22. Doubt kills. Stop doubting yourself and do it! Believe in yourself and your potential and work hard!
23. The easy road does not necessarily mean it will be easy. Taking the easy way out sometimes can lead to a longer and more complex process. Don’t cheat, do the work, work hard and you will rewarded for your hard work.
24. You can’t change the world, but you can be the change. If I had the power, people would all get along, no pets would be put to sleep, everyone would have access to an education, food and water, healthcare, no diseases, everyone would be happy and more. I can’t do all that, but if I try to make a difference in any way shape or form, show others to help those in need, I know I am doing my part and I can die happy that I have helped other people.
Recently, I found an old diary I had when I was in elementary or high school and one entry was about my plans. I said after high school, I would go to university, get my degree in 4 years, go to medical school, be engaged by 24, married by 25 (LOL), be a licensed Physician, residency and become a Neurosurgeon, have 4 kids and 4 dogs and live happily ever after in the suburbs with a waterfront property and have a beautiful view of the mountains where it rains a lot. I must’ve been 10-13 years old when I made this list and it made me laugh.
I turn 24 today, but while I consider myself old, I’m still technically young. Quite a few of my friends have been settling down, getting engaged, getting married and starting a family and I’m just not ready you know. I’m not mentally and emotionally ready to commit to one person for the rest of my life. Maybe in a few years I’ll be ready, but I am in no way in a rush to get married, move in together or any of that stuff, maybe when I’m in my late twenties. At the moment, I’m more focused on my career, my education, starting and expanding multiple business ventures and health to even think about it. It doesn’t mean I’m not happy, I’m just not ready…. yet. So, I sat down earlier this week and wrote down my new bucket list.
- Further my education and get my PhD degree and become a Researcher/Scientist
- Find the cure to Alzheimer’s
- Open up a bakery/cafe/restaurant/bar
- Go swimming with Sharks. Earlier this year I was supposed to go to Atlantis (Bahamas), but I had to work. I was really bummed that I was not able to go swimming with the sharks
- Catch a Tuna Fish (and put it back)
- Go on an extensive fishing trip. My Mom won’t allow my Dad and my brothers to go since I got realllly sick after our last fishing trip, so maybe one day we can go and my Mom won’t have to find out 🙃
- Marry the love of my life/best friend and start a family. Not until I’m in my late twenties or early thirties, I’m not in a rush.
- Master my Mom’s Leche secret Flan recipe. It’s the real deal. Also, Mom, if you’re reading this, please send this recipe my way!
- Travel the world
- Build our dream home with a view of the water and mountains
- Watch a Baseball Game at every Ball Park
- In my dream home, I want to have a large garden where I can plant all my favourite flowers and plant fruits and vegetables. I also want to have a whole section just for a bird feeder, feed the squirrels and any animals. Last year, I bought a bird feeder for my parent’s backyard (their backyard is pretty big with 7 fruit trees and birds and other animals eat them) and loved seeing the animals come up to it and eat the food. I also have to have a library for my book collection and an office/art room.
- Adopt more dogs (if I could have a pet elephant, I would be the happiest girl in the world)
- Get a meaningful tattoo. My grandparent’s (my Mom’s side) have past and I wanted my first tattoo to honour them. I’m torn between getting a tattoo of their initials or maybe a butterfly since they both loved butterflies or a forget me not flower for Alzheimer’s.
- Adopt a hedgehog and name it Hermione
- Take a cross country trip. I plan on doing this when we work on the ninetyfour87 lookbook and ad related work.
- Join a club. Look if wine clubs exist, I don’t understand why Pizza clubs or Ice Cream clubs don’t exist.
- Attempt to break a world record. I don’t know what, but hey I’ll try.
- Attend the Olympic Games. Let’s just hope certain people don’t mess it up this time.
Is there anything I should add to my bucket list? Let me know in the comments below!